by newbiecat » May 9th, 2014, 11:38 pm
Hi Pat
Bill Bridges wrote a book called Managing Transitions, and his basic thought is that for every new beginning there is an ending, and between the ending of what was - and the beginning of what will be there is a period of transition. This is the messy place where we all experience all of the emotions of grief, anger , upset , denial and all the rest as our world changes. Please honour and respect those parts of you that are grieving for the loss of what you had, those parts are doing their best to look after you.
In a while gradually life will settle into the new beginning, and then you will begin to enjoy what will be and after a while it will be just how it is!
And such fun to be had getting to know your new machine without any of the guilt of ignoring your children since they will be off enjoying their new beginnings. I am sure they will be back, with their washing and when they want to be looked after and when they just want to hang out with you sooner than you think.
In the meantime try to be as gentle with yourself as you are with them. As the Chinese saying goes 'this too shall pass' Wishing hope and kindness
Pandora