CAGigi wrote:Wow - can we all just take a breath here? I am stunned about how this has gotten blown out of proportion. I never ever suggested that Christy not post updates in fact I have repeatedly wished her the best. This was never meant to stifle any good news about Christy and the baby and I am not sure how it blew up into that.
I thought I was being polite and sensitive. You can say that "people can just avoid the topic", but most want to read the updates, and I include myself in that group. Just not sure the intimate details need to be discussed, given that we don't know all who is reading this. I was trying to be sensitive to everyone but apparently I failed.
I have never criticized anyone but I certainly feel criticized by some. Can you go back and read what my initial post said? It was light and I thought quite carefully written. I didn't just throw it out there - I really thought about it before I posted it. I would think, knowing what I have posted in the past and how supportive I have been of everyone, that some of you would have seen that no ill will was meant. I am sorry.
GiGi - First, I don't think anyone thought that you meant any ill will with your post. Nor do I believe Angel did with her's immediately following yours. I know you thought about what you posted, I too thought about my reply and how best to word it so as not to hurt yours or Angel's feelings. (I hope I succeeded!) Just as I am thinking now as to how best to reply! I actually reread the entire thread a number of times trying to find what you found objectionable and to try and see why some would when I didn't. I appreciated both of your concerns and because I did, I wanted to better understand exactly what you felt was shared that shouldn't have been which is why I asked - so we could all understand each side. I assumed that it was her use of the word "cervix" in her description. At least, that was the only thing that I thought someone might think was sharing "too much information" especially in light of "mixed company". I wondered if it was a generational issue, but I have no idea how old you are Angel are. I am not offended when people refer to body parts by their correct anatomical name within the context of something like this. It is after all, simply a body part and feel that such discussions can help educate others. I also see no reason to not to discuss such things in "mixed company". It appears that you and Angel do and I can appreciate that - doesn't mean that I agree with it but I do appreciate it and would like to respect that however, in order to respect that, we need to know what it actually is that you object to.
When I had my children (soon to be 16 and 15) my DD was 13 months old when I had my son. She was often around when I changed his diaper and would try to figure out why his "anatomy" was different from hers. I always gave her the correct "anatomical" term for ALL the body parts. Once when my MIL was there and we were changing DS's diaper, my daughter pointed out that part and called it by the correct medical term. My MIL was a little taken back but I told her I would rather hear it called by its correct anatomical term then by a silly nickname! Body parts are just that "body parts". I don't think the terms used for them should be hidden and deemed to be "dirty" words. That doesn't mean that I use them in everyday conversations with strangers however! I try to be sensitive to the situation and group I am in. My children have also been taught that there are correct times and places to use such terms and that they can be used in negative ways!
There are often things shared here that someone else may "object" to - )and I hope that we are all "sensitive" to that) but because of that we cannot censor the boards for everyone or, in the end, we would end up with nothing being shared. Sometimes "racy cards" may be shared, prayer requests made, "crude comments" or jokes made, etc. where do we draw the line on deciding what can and cannot be shared? There is someone who might object to any and all of the above. That is why I said that in the end, it is up to the poster to decide what they are comfortable with sharing. The reader then has to understand that it is not necessarily for the reader to object to, but to decide they wish to look no further.
However, I will also say that by asking what you found objectionable, I was truly hoping to find out so that we could all use that in our "filters" that we use to decide what information we will post. I don't believe that anyone here would want to intentionally post something that they knew would cause discomfort for someone else. We have become a "family" - even me who actually tends to share very little of my personal life and information - it was a huge step for me to ask a group of really unknown people for prayers this summer when I was going to have my surgery but I felt "led" to ask and believe my surgery was blessed for it. Did I worry that I was sharing too much? That someone might object to a prayer request? Yes, actually I did.
I hope that you and Angel will still share what you found objectionable so that we can all have a better understanding. It is only when we learn such things from each other that we can continue to "grow" ourselves.
Sorry for the length and the ramblings. Now Group Hugs to everyone!